Counselor George Lutterodt on public proposal of marriage by men, in an interview on Starr FM this morning with Robert Nii Arday Clegg (host).
According to Counselor Lutterodt, this is why it is wrong to propose to a woman in public.
"It is a public insult---insubordination. It is one of the biggest defficiencies that can be weighed on a femenine gender call a woman.
"It is actually a shame, disgrace, a ridicule to be publicly embarrassed by a man in the name of love.
"You publicly propose to her, you have embarrassed her and put her in a box.
"It is a ridicule, it is a shame and disgrace to feminity.
"....Nobody can put an indelible mark on you as a wife until they pay your bride price.
"It (public proposal) keeps you in the box. You are mine. Publicly announcing that henceforth you are going out. So even if we don't marry, constantly that sort of mark you left at the restaurant is in the congnitive templates of all those who witnessed it, those who took pictures on social media. And social media can keep the record in the cloud for so many years. So everytime there is an answer from you that you have to answer a question. Where is George Lutterodt? The guy who proposed to you at the restaurant and we all bowed to it. Where is he? He drops you and then you become a bigger burden. He marries you and the record is there. This girl I was there when the guy did the proposal.
"And the question is that even if you are not sure you don't want it, there are times that 8 out of 10 girls would not want to spoil the fun but would want to go down to it and accept the nonsense (public proposal) of the young man because they are in a box. This has led to a lot of women today regretting in their marriage. And for me, it is a disrespect because there is a procedure for seeking for a woman's hand in marriage.
"Women are very very important.... God created a woman as the completion of creation. So the wisdom and power of a woman cannot be underated to that level where you put them in a box, kneel down, give them a ring in public place and they have nothing to do than to clap their hands, and the people there who don't even know you, they don't know George Lutterodt, they don't know Naa Ashorkor; once I kneel down for her then everybody start "Awwww...""
Does a man have the right to propose to a woman? Counselor Lutterodt says NO.
"A man has no right to propose to a woman. It is a family's business. That is what the man must learn. It is a family's connection. So your family is doing the thing on your behalf because you have expressed the interest..."
Instead of the public proposal, this is what Counselor Lutterodt want men to do.
"You see the lady, you want to marry her, you report to your family and the family goes to her family and make the proposal on your behalf."
And this is what Counselor Lutterodt want women to do to men who propose to them in public.
"Women should begin to slap the foolishness out of men. When you give them a slap, it will become a police case rather give them(men) 'anisubo' (that is a slap on the eye)."
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